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JESSI'S STORY Feeling Flashbacks
Though identifying details, including her name, have been changed, the story is true. Jessi remembered the terrible feeling. Anytime anyone became upset, loud, scared or angry, instantly Jessi was three years old again.
Sometimes Jessi saw flashes of the nursery, most of the time Jessi just remembered the feelings. Her brother had died of crib death. The pain had gone on for months and months.
Jessi had feeling flashbacks and they kept her stuck. She had many friends. She loved her work. But she knew that something was missing and she was tired of being alone. She wondered if she would ever have a healthy relationship.
In the back of her mind, Jessi knew that she had been afraid to have a successful relationship because "he" might have wanted a baby some day. She would not let herself think it, let alone say it. But she knew that it was true. Jessi could not have imagined risking that kind of pain because she had not yet learned to get out of the pain of the past.
For Jessi learning to stay in the HERE & NOW meant learning how to look back without “going” back, without being three years old, without being stuck in the pain. Only then, when she could stay in the HERE & NOW could Jessi move forward.
Her parents had had other children after her brother had died. Her brothers had had children as well. Jessi, though, was stuck in the feeling flashbacks. Learning to stay in the HERE & NOW for Jessi meant that she could then eventually allow herself to fall in love. She could love with abandon because now she could take risks, even the risk of having a baby, because whatever happened in her life, Jessi now knew how to get herself out of the pain. If you are stuck in the past, there are ways out. I wanted to hear Jessi's story. I wanted to help her to get out of the pain. I want to hear your story too.
Please don’t put off getting help with the pain. Schedule a phone training on the HERE & NOW Plan and see if it can begin to work for you. Click the "On Line Counseling" tab at the top left. Follow the links and schedule a session. Take the first step.
You too can learn the seven simple steps to getting out of the pain and into the HERE & NOW. Then you can practice them. And practice them. You can do that much for yourself to see if it can work for you.
I can be there by phone or in person, or on line by chat or email to support and guide, encourage and train you as you practice getting out of the pain.
Help is just a few clicks away. Follow the links and schedule a session.. Learn the HERE & NOW Plan.
Stress can be managed, anger can be lessened,
children can behave better, and relationships can be fun again. Trauma can be resolved, healing can happen, and people can move forward. Counseling can help.
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