The Counselor Is In

COREY'S STORY
Sexual Abuse

Though identifying details, including her name, have been changed,  the story is true.  Corey had always been a tower or strength, until she had held her newborn child in her arms and began to wonder secretly, "Why hadn't I been this worthy of protection?” It was then that Corey had started to have trouble getting out of the pain. It should have been a beautiful time in her life, but the flashes of shame and doubt had begun.

A few years later, her child reached the age that Corey had been when Corey had been sexually abused and the pain had become unbearable. Unable to separate from the pain enough to think clearly, Corey had been unable to say the words, “I was worthy of protection. I was worthy of being cherished and adored. It was him. It was him who was not worthy. And I am of him. So what happens if I am just like him? Who will protect my children?”

Corey’s husband had already left her before Corey had sought help and learned, just as you can learn, how to get out of the pain and into the HERE & NOW.

Once she was able to stay in the HERE & NOW and able to look back without the pain, Corey had been able to realize that she was of him but she was not him. With that knowledge Corey was then able to move forward.

Corey had put off getting help out of fear and shame. She had not known that any one else would understand what she had been through or would know how to help her.

Please don't you put it off any longer. 

Corey had been afraid that she was not worthy and had been hiding so that no one would find out. For Corey getting out of the past and into the HERE & NOW meant that she was able to feel worthy, to come out of hiding, to parent her children and move on with her life.

Learning to stay in the HERE & NOW for Corey meant that she could then eventually allow herself to trust again, to trust herself and eventually to trust another. She could love again, take risks, even the risk of trusting another because whatever happened in her life, Corey now knew how to get herself out of the pain.

If you are stuck in the past, there are ways out.  I wanted to hear Corey's story.  I wanted to help her to get out of the pain.  I would love to hear your story too.

Please don’t put off getting help with the pain.

Schedule a phone training on the HERE & NOW Plan and see if it can begin to work for you. Click the "On Line Counseling" tab at the top left and take the first step.

You too can learn the seven simple steps to getting out of the pain and into the HERE & NOW.  And then practice them, and practice them.  You can do that much for yourself to see if it can work for you.

I can be there by phone or in person, or on line by chat or email to support and guide, encourage and train you as you practice getting out of th pain.

Help is just a few clicks away.  Learn the HERE & NOW Plan.  See if it can work for you.

Stress can be managed, anger can be lessened, children can behave better, and relationships can be fun again.   Trauma can be resolved, healing can happen, and people can move forward. Counseling can help.